Cut and Paste, Start Again ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- \"Save\" I don't like the word. But more importantly, I don't believe in saving people myself. And it makes me question the world that I'm living in, when so many people seem to used the word "saved" when really they mean "was there for" me.
Cause even if it is an inner process, once in a while you might need someone to carry you through it :/ And I never mean to insult or patronize. Like I said... ... You do yourself an injustice by suggesting that it's a "job." And I know that's not what you meant, I know that no one ever thinks of it as a job or a chore to be helpful. But you used the word. Which means that there's a part of you, and many others, who sees this as a "duty" that they have to help others. You do yourself and injustice by thinking of it in those terms. The difference between being there for someone, and trying to save someone, is that if you "fail," if they reject your help, you take the blame for something that simply wasn't your responsibility in the first place. Does that make sense? It's a tragic thing to watch someone fall, and be helplessly unable to catch them. But to take the blame for someone else's falling, unless you really were to blame, unless you were the one to push... to take the blame when all you tried to do was help, that is equally tragic. And that is what comes from a mentality in which you think that you can "save" anyone but yourself. 18:31 - 15 June 2008 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- |
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